
Live the Life You Want. Have the Sex You Deserve.
I help women 40+ reclaim their sexual confidence, step boldly into their power, and experience a life filled with pleasure, intention, and connection.
Lisette Ostrander, Ph.D.
Certified Life, Sex & Intimacy Coach
I am a Certified Life Coach & Sex and Intimacy Coach.
My work is about more than just better sex—it’s about transforming how you show up in every area of your life. Together, we’ll tap into the power of your sexuality to create profound change and help you live fully as the vibrant, confident woman you were always meant to be.

Lisette creates a space where self-discovery around sexuality, sensuality and intimacy can flourish. She offers practical tools while also inviting profound personal growth. She created a space where I felt completely safe to slow down, reconnect with myself, and truly tune into my body. Her presence is both grounding and freeing, allowing me to explore intimacy and pleasure without pressure or judgment. Through her guidance, I gained deeper self-awareness and permission to honor what I truly want and need to feel sensually alive.
- Client, San Francisco, CA
Lisette's compassionate approach created a safe space for me to explore my limiting beliefs. Her insightful questions helped me uncover my inner strengths and develop practical strategies for managing stress. Now, I approach challenges with renewed confidence and clarity, and I'm more empowered to go after all aspects of my personal and professional life.
- Client, San Rafael, CA
I knew before working with Lisette that I had a deep desire to explore new ways of engaging with my whole self in an intimate way, but I was scared and stuck in old routines on my own. I was nervous and curious going in and deeply grateful for Lisette's style, flow, and warm virtual embrace during each session. Her intuition, deep care and extensive knowledge were a shining touchstone as she guided me through vulnerable and tender places. I felt seen, safe, and honored. I would recommend her to ANYone looking to open their hearts up to themselves and to others with grace, strength, and hope. I came away with empowering skills and insight that I am thrilled to have as resources moving forward.
- Client, Oakland, CA

Why This Work Matters
Your sexuality isn’t just one piece of the puzzle—it’s the thread that connects every part of your life. When you strengthen your connection to your sexual self, you activate your life force, unlock creative energy, and align with your truest self.
Here’s what happens when you fully step into your power:
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🌟 You’ll trust yourself deeply.
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❤️ Your relationships will grow stronger and more authentic.
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💫 You’ll live unapologetically, embracing the powerful, dynamic woman you are.
This isn’t about becoming someone else; it’s about rediscovering the version of you that's been waiting to shine.
Discover The Woman You Are Meant to Be
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The discovery call is an opportunity to see how I can best support you on your intimacy journey.
- 500 US dollars
The Intimate Journey


![✨ Celebrating Michelle Campbell-Mateo! ✨ [Bay Area Women - Mini Spotlights]
Meet the incredible Michelle Campbell-Mateo—Restorative Healing Wellness Educator, Coach, Facilitator, and passionate advocate for social and emotional learning.
Michelle is a mental health specialist with expertise in crisis intervention and restorative circles. Her impactful work includes facilitating Restorative Justice Practices in schools and communities (community building, conflict mediation, re-entry, and community engagement).
💛 I had the pleasure of meeting and working with Michelle during my work in youth connection and belonging to combat social isolation. Her unwavering dedication and profound wisdom have been a source of endless inspiration 💛.
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You're invited to join us in celebrating phenomenal women like Michelle at the 2nd Bay Area Amazing Women Gathering! 🌟
🗓 When: Friday. April 25th
📍 Where: ARTogether Center, Downtown Oakland
🎟 Don’t miss out—secure your ticket - like in bio- come celebrate, collaborate, and connect with an inspiring community of women.
#amazingwomen #amazingwomenseries #amazingwomengathering #bayareawomen #bayarea #restorativejustice #socialandemotionallearning #sanfrancisco #oaklandcalifornia #restorativehealing #educators #BayAreaEducators #bayareateachers #mentalhealth #MentalHealthSpecialist #CrisisIntervention #restorativepractices](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/486152606_122227297220070725_6375356525367192682_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=104&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&_nc_ohc=Y8fJd56wXUUQ7kNvgGvpsjS&_nc_oc=Adn34o-gFArPLqGxgBEB-J1o6TnADh5EhVSWp_VwEAUhlTMnt_1bAPvi6RJ0pntnFws&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=7R-m6ve_sx2-HvW2-VDTWA&oh=00_AYFrTRH0ytOkiYfQdHpG2_EhRlGPRdEOAp4gEyZ0fzJvOg&oe=67F21984)
![✨ Celebrating Michelle Campbell-Mateo! ✨ [Bay Area Women - Mini Spotlights]
Meet the incredible Michelle Campbell-Mateo—Restorative Healing Wellness Educator, Coach, Facilitator, and passionate advocate for social and emotional learning.
Michelle is a mental health specialist with expertise in crisis intervention and restorative circles. Her impactful work includes facilitating Restorative Justice Practices in schools and communities (community building, conflict mediation, re-entry, and community engagement).
💛 I had the pleasure of meeting and working with Michelle during my work in youth connection and belonging to combat social isolation. Her unwavering dedication and profound wisdom have been a source of endless inspiration 💛.
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You're invited to join us in celebrating phenomenal women like Michelle at the 2nd Bay Area Amazing Women Gathering! 🌟
🗓 When: Friday. April 25th
📍 Where: ARTogether Center, Downtown Oakland
🎟 Don’t miss out—secure your ticket - like in bio- come celebrate, collaborate, and connect with an inspiring community of women.
#amazingwomen #amazingwomenseries #amazingwomengathering #bayareawomen #bayarea #restorativejustice #socialandemotionallearning #sanfrancisco #oaklandcalifornia #restorativehealing #educators #BayAreaEducators #bayareateachers #mentalhealth #MentalHealthSpecialist #CrisisIntervention #restorativepractices](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/486152606_122227297220070725_6375356525367192682_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=104&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&_nc_ohc=Y8fJd56wXUUQ7kNvgGvpsjS&_nc_oc=Adn34o-gFArPLqGxgBEB-J1o6TnADh5EhVSWp_VwEAUhlTMnt_1bAPvi6RJ0pntnFws&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=7R-m6ve_sx2-HvW2-VDTWA&oh=00_AYFrTRH0ytOkiYfQdHpG2_EhRlGPRdEOAp4gEyZ0fzJvOg&oe=67F21984)


![✨ Celebrating Seema Patel @seemonster7 a phenomenal educator, advocate, and friend! ✨ [Bay Area Women - Mini Spotlights]
Born and raised in San Jose, California, Seema has spent over 20 years shaping young minds as an educator, with 13+ of those years teaching in the Bay Area.
A fierce advocate for social justice, Seema empowers students to think critically and solve creatively.
Seema lives in the Monterey Bay Area with her husband and two boys. She is an adjunct professor in the College of Education, a reading specialist at California State University, Monterey Bay, and President of her PTA (parent-teacher association).
❤️ On a personal note, I met Seema Patel 24 years ago at the Barcelona Airport. We were both part of the same 6-week program and she had no place to stay that night. I invited her to stay with me.
Twelve years later, Seema generously opened her San Francisco home to me, and it was because of her that I was able to move to SF. Seema was also the reason I got my cherished San Francisco apartment.
Thank you, Seema, for making this San Francisco chapter possible for me. It changed my life.❤️
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🎉 You're invited to join us in celebrating phenomenal women like Seema at the 2nd Bay Area Amazing Women Gathering! 🌟
📅 When: April 25th
📍 Where: ARTogether Center, Downtown Oakland
🎟 Don’t miss out! Grab your ticket - link in bio ☝ - and join us for a night of inspiration, connection, and collaboration.
#bayareaamazingwomengathering #amazingwomen #amazingwomenseries #friends #educators #bayareaeducator #bayareateachers #bayarea #sanfrancisco #connection #collaboration #ARTogether #oaklandcalifornia #bayareaevents](https://scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/486136504_122226455630070725_1098959242058780058_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=109&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&_nc_ohc=USlW8QT6P_kQ7kNvgGyd2YZ&_nc_oc=Adnd1U1JiK1u8IuKcVmPIiah4qAl5cBmIlJ5zy-9P4voVvrJqaE-hToXgTm-piUiHOU&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=7R-m6ve_sx2-HvW2-VDTWA&oh=00_AYGTysCxrHECq7TVmVuWrdqDUiy5D-FAxlX_QRspH3cn9g&oe=67F220AD)
![✨ Celebrating Seema Patel @seemonster7 a phenomenal educator, advocate, and friend! ✨ [Bay Area Women - Mini Spotlights]
Born and raised in San Jose, California, Seema has spent over 20 years shaping young minds as an educator, with 13+ of those years teaching in the Bay Area.
A fierce advocate for social justice, Seema empowers students to think critically and solve creatively.
Seema lives in the Monterey Bay Area with her husband and two boys. She is an adjunct professor in the College of Education, a reading specialist at California State University, Monterey Bay, and President of her PTA (parent-teacher association).
❤️ On a personal note, I met Seema Patel 24 years ago at the Barcelona Airport. We were both part of the same 6-week program and she had no place to stay that night. I invited her to stay with me.
Twelve years later, Seema generously opened her San Francisco home to me, and it was because of her that I was able to move to SF. Seema was also the reason I got my cherished San Francisco apartment.
Thank you, Seema, for making this San Francisco chapter possible for me. It changed my life.❤️
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🎉 You're invited to join us in celebrating phenomenal women like Seema at the 2nd Bay Area Amazing Women Gathering! 🌟
📅 When: April 25th
📍 Where: ARTogether Center, Downtown Oakland
🎟 Don’t miss out! Grab your ticket - link in bio ☝ - and join us for a night of inspiration, connection, and collaboration.
#bayareaamazingwomengathering #amazingwomen #amazingwomenseries #friends #educators #bayareaeducator #bayareateachers #bayarea #sanfrancisco #connection #collaboration #ARTogether #oaklandcalifornia #bayareaevents](https://scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/486136504_122226455630070725_1098959242058780058_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=109&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&_nc_ohc=USlW8QT6P_kQ7kNvgGyd2YZ&_nc_oc=Adnd1U1JiK1u8IuKcVmPIiah4qAl5cBmIlJ5zy-9P4voVvrJqaE-hToXgTm-piUiHOU&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=7R-m6ve_sx2-HvW2-VDTWA&oh=00_AYGTysCxrHECq7TVmVuWrdqDUiy5D-FAxlX_QRspH3cn9g&oe=67F220AD)
![✨ Debi Cohn- She’s all about good vibes and great connections! ✨ [Bay Area Amazing Women - Mini Spotlights]
Celebrating Debi Cohn a community rockstar and the heart behind Mission District’s cozy, vibrant bar, @asientosf
For Debi, life’s sweetest moments revolve around connecting with people and connecting people, whether it’s over delicious food, funky DJ sets, or sharing a friendly smile.
@asientosf is a true reflection of her passion for community and celebrations. 🥂
From the moment I met Debi, I could feel her love of community and connection and I knew I had found the perfect place to gather people.
I’ve hosted multiple events/gatherings at Asiento over the years —it’s always the spot for good music, amazing drinks, and a warm, welcoming vibe.
➡ In fact, I am hosting a happy hour at Asiento on Friday, April 11th, from 5:30pm to 8:30pm!! Join us if you are in #bayarea #sanfrancisco🎉🎉
Whether you’re grabbing a bite solo, planning a catch-up with friends, or hosting your next celebration, Asiento is the perfect!
Want to meet more phenomenal women like Debi? Join us at the 2nd Bay Area Amazing Women Gathering!
🗓 When: April 25th
📍 Where: @artogether__ Center, Downtown Oakland
🎟 Don’t miss out—grab your ticket in bio ☝ and celebrate, collaborate, and connect with inspiring, like-minded women. 💬
#WomenSupportingWomen #BayAreaAmazingWomen #AmazingWomen #AmazingWomenSeries #BayArea #sanfrancisco #BayAreaAmazingWomenGathering #Asiento #Community #Connections #SFbars #SFevents #MissionSF](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/485108153_122225872100070725_5012470155825892742_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=101&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&_nc_ohc=3uxarwIDercQ7kNvgEkQ9In&_nc_oc=Admb2p5HtHlN5a6E_GtnyzKSkkKo9pEyy_jerb1LlddupPXg0o_Hmh6fmNwi4dL4qOY&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=7R-m6ve_sx2-HvW2-VDTWA&oh=00_AYHirCosXPaLxJx4Yks5eOO7R88A3Uupw9DW_xccS7ghjw&oe=67F23152)
![✨ Debi Cohn- She’s all about good vibes and great connections! ✨ [Bay Area Amazing Women - Mini Spotlights]
Celebrating Debi Cohn a community rockstar and the heart behind Mission District’s cozy, vibrant bar, @asientosf
For Debi, life’s sweetest moments revolve around connecting with people and connecting people, whether it’s over delicious food, funky DJ sets, or sharing a friendly smile.
@asientosf is a true reflection of her passion for community and celebrations. 🥂
From the moment I met Debi, I could feel her love of community and connection and I knew I had found the perfect place to gather people.
I’ve hosted multiple events/gatherings at Asiento over the years —it’s always the spot for good music, amazing drinks, and a warm, welcoming vibe.
➡ In fact, I am hosting a happy hour at Asiento on Friday, April 11th, from 5:30pm to 8:30pm!! Join us if you are in #bayarea #sanfrancisco🎉🎉
Whether you’re grabbing a bite solo, planning a catch-up with friends, or hosting your next celebration, Asiento is the perfect!
Want to meet more phenomenal women like Debi? Join us at the 2nd Bay Area Amazing Women Gathering!
🗓 When: April 25th
📍 Where: @artogether__ Center, Downtown Oakland
🎟 Don’t miss out—grab your ticket in bio ☝ and celebrate, collaborate, and connect with inspiring, like-minded women. 💬
#WomenSupportingWomen #BayAreaAmazingWomen #AmazingWomen #AmazingWomenSeries #BayArea #sanfrancisco #BayAreaAmazingWomenGathering #Asiento #Community #Connections #SFbars #SFevents #MissionSF](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/485108153_122225872100070725_5012470155825892742_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=101&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&_nc_ohc=3uxarwIDercQ7kNvgEkQ9In&_nc_oc=Admb2p5HtHlN5a6E_GtnyzKSkkKo9pEyy_jerb1LlddupPXg0o_Hmh6fmNwi4dL4qOY&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=7R-m6ve_sx2-HvW2-VDTWA&oh=00_AYHirCosXPaLxJx4Yks5eOO7R88A3Uupw9DW_xccS7ghjw&oe=67F23152)